(Video) Mother in Conn. sentenced to 12 years (5 suspended) for enrolling her kid out of district..

She also has to serve 5 years (concurrent) for drug charges in Bristol (Where she allegedly really lived while her son was attending school in Norwalk) Very sad as CLEARLY she was wrong BUT CLEARLY she was just trying to provide for her child. I don't want to play arm chair lawyer on this one 'cause I don't know the 'end result' of her NOT PLEADING GUILTY. All I know is that the child is now without his mother (he is in his grandmother's care). I feel bad for all parties involved. Yes, I understand it is the law. I get that. I just wonder if this could have been handled another way. And ya'll know how I AM ABOUT GIVING 'PASSES' FOR FOLKS AND THEIR BEHAVIOR. Could she have made some better choices in Life earlier? Probably. Now isn't the time for that though. (Maybe later)

(Video) If you are a kid, you will hate this. If you are parent you will love it. Dad shoots her laptop..

*tears* I mean he told her the next time she gets on Facebook and acts out what it was going to be. She didn't believe him. Bet she believes him now though.... (He probably didn't think 2 million people would see this video....wait..he is an IT person...HE KNEW FOLKS WOULD SEE IT...)

Would have taken it to this extreme? Probably not. But I understand.....(Chris Rock voice) I truly do.

I should 'correct' the title. Some of you who have kids would enjoy this. I know there are some of you out there who would NEVER cuss at your kids. Ever. Good for you btw. Hope it leads to a profane language free adult. (I doubt it but eh...)  I know that part of the video probably bothers most of you. I understand. I don't agree but I understand. He felt he needed to take a drastic step. He did. *








*I wouldn't get too in a tizzy about the gun.... He is on his land. Looked kinda flat too. I'm guessing he is in one of the more 'gun friendly' states. I wouldn't worry too much about him on that end. @ what kinda charges he might get.

Stereotype Killer | fathers and daughters

Stereotype Killer | fathers and daughters


Usually it is me ripping folks a new one... I'mma let my peoples Syn speak on it this time. Follow her Tumblr (that is where the source link takes you.. I am in the middle of writing something that kinda touches on the LAST part of this....


fathers and daughters

So many men have SO much to say about how women should act, yet refuse to change how they treat/speak of ALL women. I am not all that interested in hearing the convoluted logic of “I treat women, bitches, and hoes all different”. Men, please get your heads out of the lyrics of rap songs.

If these same men REALLY loved women, they would respect them for the human beings they are, not the sexual entities they see them as. Enter fatherhood and all of a sudden these same men miraculously have all the tools to raise a non-bitch hoe ass woman. Wrong. Your daughter will more than likely look at the women you are attracted to and either be confused, emulate them, or never get along with men on a romantic level long enough to keep a solid relationship. If they were not women worthy of association, why would daddy be around them?

You cannot want a woman like Claire Huxtable (who is a fictional character, by the way) and daughters like Rudy, Vanessa, Denise and Sondra, if you are not Cliff Huxtable (who is also a fictional character). Since some men are using Claire as “the standard” of all things good woman, why are you not mirroring Cliff? Think back to how he treated his wife and daughters. Did you see him being disloyal, acting a damn fool, or being the most insufferable nigga on the planet? Nope. He was just the opposite.

Have we learned NOTHING about children being like sponges though? They do not 100% listen to what we as parents tell them anyway. What becomes normal to them is what they SEE and EXPERIENCE. On those days when you are not being an exemplary father, your daughter is taking notes. On those days you decide you want to be a fuckboy, you daughter is taking notes. On those days when you try to school her and tell her who to be, she is more than likely being confused. What you tell her and what she sees do not quite line up.

That joke many men often repeat about their job is to keep their daughter off the pole? Why have I never heard ANY men say it is their job to show their daughter how REAL men act? Show her that she deserves to be told the truth and dealt with honestly. Show her that the women in your life are valuable because you wholeheartedly care about them, not because you use them to fulfill your carnal/financial needs.

Speaking from experience, everything I have learned through men was not based on ANY of their words. Most men can talk a good game of irrelevant shit but when it comes to putting action behind those words? There are very few men I can say walk the talk that comes out of their mouths.

Tired of the bitches and hoes? SHOW your daughters better and maybe they will live their lives better.

The alternative is to tell your daughter that she will see you make a lot of bad decisions in life but she will always have a choice to be JUST like you, or better. Either way, please tell AND show your daughters the truth…

P.S. - since it is the norm for people to vent about their relationships on social networks, understand that this is not about my daughter’s father. no matter how much he MIGHT piss me off, I would never talk bad about him on a social network. not my style…so no assumptions please. thank you.

Black Teen Spanked on Viral Video Found Dead

Black Teen Spanked on Viral Video Found Dead


Let's play the blame...game...I love...- K. West

Lets blame the uncle...'Cause the guys with the guns who did the shooting..yeah..you know they couldn't 'help it'....-__ -

 A teenager who was a fleeting sensation on YouTube earlier this year after he was videotaped being spanked by his uncle for boasting about gang ties on his Facebook page was found shot to death last week, just steps away from his Terrytown neighborhood home.

According to the New Orleans Times-Picayune, the Jefferson Parish Sheriff’s Office said Michael Taylor, 16, was found shot to death shortly after 8:30 p.m. on Wednesday, Dec. 7 when deputies responded to a report of gunshots in the area.

Taylor had been shot multiple times.

Sgt. Larry Dyess, JPSO spokesman, told the Times-Picayune that authorities had no suspect or motive in the incident.

Taylor’s mother, Kimberly Ward, told the newspaper that she kept strict tabs on her son, even making him stay on the sidewalk in eyesight of their home when he went outside. The night of the shooting, she said, Taylor received a text message from a friend at about 8 p.m. and went outside to chat.

"She said she called him back inside a few minutes later to find out what was going on, and he told her he was just talking and went back outside. A few minutes later, her daughter received a text message saying that Taylor had been shot, and then another saying he was dead," the newspaper reported.

"Ward said she rushed from the house, driving around the neighborhood looking for her son, but didn't find him until she was coming back to her apartment complex. That's when she saw his body on the cold sidewalk, clad in the red sweatshirt she'd noticed when he left the house.

"'I came home and saw my son on the ground,’ Ward said."

In addition to his mother and sister, Taylor is survived by a brother, grandparents and a host of relatives and friends. His funeral is scheduled for this morning.

In the YouTube video, posted in January, Taylor’s uncle ordered him to disavow any ties to gangs, announced that the family "don’t come from that sh--," and then proceeded to take off his belt and spank Taylor in full view of the laptop camera.

Rappers Lil Wayne and Birdman spoofed the video, as did another video site called StuntKidzTV.

The original video sparked tons of reaction, from people who applauded the uncle’s actions, calling it an overdue return to old-school parenting and discipline, to those who speculated the public humiliation might drive the teenager deeper into a gang's circle because the youth had been humiliated.

"I am not surprised to hear that this young man's life has ended violently. When I saw the video, I kept thinking that by beating this youth, the uncle was setting him up for some kind of tragedy, either prison or an early grave," said Stacey Patton, who in April launched the web site SparetheKids.com to offer black parents alternatives to corporal punishment and the tools to help foster the healthy development of children.

"I don’t understand why more people don't make the connection between how children are dealt with at home and the larger societal impact," Patton said. "Studies show that maltreated youth make up a disproportionate number of youth involved in school and gang violence. Violent parental discipline increases the risk that a child will act violently later in life. The use of violent discipline teaches children that violence is an appropriate means of shaping behavior and solving problems. Physically disciplining a child has no positive impact for the child, that child's relationship with the parents, or the larger community."

Ward told the Times-Picayune that her son was mild-mannered, but had begun hanging out with tough guys, telling her that he did it for ..

(Words) He's Still Here.... - My Dad...

I mean just read the post man... @ who they are.

I don't remember intimate details of my Grandfather's death. I mean I know THE BASICS don't get me wrong but VERY LAST DETAIL? No. What I do remember are the days surrounding it and my own Father's 'shift' in Fatherhood and Manhood. It was huge. Definite impact. More thoughtful. Information started coming faster in regards to me. It was like watching some sort of 'passing of the guard' that was silently taking place. He took on even more than he had previously. He was QUIET for a long time though before it become outwardly apparent. There were days of REALLY THOUGHTFUL SILENCE and many a long run. Sometimes, I would run with him and sometimes off into the night he would go, alone. What I didn't understand then, I more than understand it now. @ the things that transpired during that time period.

Now before you go 'logic leaping', up until that point my Dad was an EXCELLENT DAD. So don't assume I am saying he was horrible. He was a young man in his late 30s to early 40s (I know some of you 19-20somethings think the word 'young' only applies to you but it doesn't..compare it to being 60ish. Broad range..) trying to raise a young BLACK MALE in a society that wasn't exactly 'as accepting' of young black males with VERY FEW LIVING ROLE MODELS TO PATTERN THEMSELVES AFTER. He was actually in the process of getting his OWN SHIT TOGETHER at the time, unbeknownst to the younger me at the time, by going BACK TO SCHOOL after having served his country. I didn't realize any of this at the time because unlike most parents today who come home and 'lay it all on their kids lap', he just DID HIS THING AND KEPT IT MOVING. I honestly thought EVERYONE'S parents worked two jobs, came home to crack open a book or two and every two weeks of the month went off to 'training' with their Military gear on. Then again, he surrounded me with folks who did so that's why I thought that. Again, didn't KNOW IT ALL AT THE TIME but all of that was done purposely. Even the MEN AND WOMEN who were childless and the like moved with a purpose. I say all that to say that he was still finding HIS WAY but knew he had to do it to make a way for me and he did that. I remember that vividly.

Anyhow, that time period stuck out in my head as I got a little older (I was 8 when my grandfather passed so lets say 11 or 12ish...). I would ask him about his own Father and where he was more 'reserved' (read: private and internal with his feelings)  in the past, he was now very candid. He told me that he wished he had been even more so before but he just didn't know 'how' but was glad that I kept asking. He told me that when I had some kids that I should try not to be so 'private' because they would remember, even if I thought they wouldn't. He was right because while I may not remember the 'finite' details of my grandfather's death, I remember JUST ABOUT EVERYTHING MY OWN FATHER did say at that time. I can only hope I'm doing this right in my own life. @ the sharing I am trying to do. I try to give 'em all that I know and if I don't know it, I try to find out. Just like mine did for me.

It is this time period that is helping me today, as I sit here and think about him on what would have been his birthday. My lil cousin shares this day with him (Happy birthday J!) and I remember just how much joy it would bring my Dad to call him on his birthday. More joy than he got from people calling him on his own for sure. Yes, my Father's birthday would often fall ON THANKSGIVING and while I was thankful for all the toys and other things I got over the years, as I got older and saw the hundreds of kids he was helping who DIDN'T HAVE A FATHER/he mentored/he just flat out helped raise in conjunction with their biological, I became more thankful for just HIM. Thankful for the exposure to many things and situations that I otherwise probably wouldn't have sought out on my own.

Now I am not gonna sit here and blow proverbial smoke up ya'lls (insert the word...ATTEMPTING TO KEEP THIS CLEAN...WISH ME LUCK) and say we just got along ALL THE TIME. Naw B. He was my Dad. I was JUST LIKE HIM. Which is to say we MORE THAN HAD OUR  SHARE OF 'ISSUES'. He was VERY HARD ON ME. In his own words, probably too hard. (I beg to differ with that at times as quite frankly, it was needed. I can say that NOW. Then? Eh...) I like to say he was doing what he thought was best and didn't wanna leave anything out. He did a GREAT JOB of doing something that comes with no manual and the mistakes he 'may have made' (Yeah..I'm gonna slander him on his birthday...I'm. Not. You. Nope..Sorry. Not gonna slander him. Next.) I learned from those too and am trying not to repeat them. Just like he asked me to. Gave me a lot of game early on in Life and gave me PLENTY MORE later on just by living. Whatever differences we did have, we worked them out like MEN. I hear a lot of you throwing around that 'phrase' like you know something about it. Nigga you don't know shit about that phrase if you are out here KILLING FOLKS behind your 'acting like men' mantra. That's not what men do. Men don't act like pussies and hide but part of being a man is owning up to YOUR PART of a situation and accepting folks apologies and the like. You know...that 'forgiveness' thing many of you view as a 'weakness'? Yeah that... He taught me that. It is VERY HARD TO DO but I've learned to at least ATTEMPT TO APPLY IT. Some of you could stand a taste of that or two...  Especially if you want others to 'help you' like you say they 'should'... There are a LOT OF YOU I WANT TO HELP IN ANY WAY I CAN but your lack of understanding of this VERY SIMPLE concept is stopping me...Another post. Another time perhaps.. @ this topic. (Sorry..I tried. @ clean..)

Today is pretty difficult but I want ya'll to send ANY ENERGY you have not to me but to my MOM. She is the one who could really use it today. From about 8 years old (Any of you elders reading this who wanna correct me..Go ahead! I wasn't there...You would know..I wouldn't..) to THIS VERY DAY, she has had that man intertwined in her life in some fashion. Yeah...go BACK AND READ WHAT I WROTE. I didn't say for EIGHT YEARS. I said SINCE EIGHT YEARS OLD. So yeah...send that her way at the very least and send her a lot. She needs it on this day. Send some to his living brothers and sisters too while you are at it. His nephew. His niece. His other son. That kid who JUST FOUND OUT THE OTHER DAY that he passed away and damm near passed out in front of me as I told him. Send some their way....

Yep, He's Still Here

This is going to sound a little weird but my Dad is still here. 

Obviously not in the physical but in our actions and in our hearts he is near. 

I remember thinking, morbid I know, just how I would be or how I would react. 

On days like these, when I think about him the most. Holidays, birthdays or other days of impact. 

Funny thing is, even when he was amongst us on the Earth but hundreds of miles away. 

I would hear his voice WITHOUT THE USE OF A PHONE or physical presence. Here's a taste of what he would say. 

If I was about to embark on something worthwhile his voice would come to me in my dreams at night..

He'd say "Well now boy I see you doing something worth a damm..I mighta done alright...

I see all the things I tried to tell you, you actually were paying attention. 

Shit, I thought they fell on deaf ears. I mean you never said a word or gave it a mention. 

I know I was hard on you Son but I did it because it was the only way I knew how. 

If I didn't say "I love you enough", know it wasn't cause I didn't. Let me say it now............ "

I also hear his voice while I am awake, usually when things go awry.

His presence is felt then too. Yeah, that's why I often look to the sky. 

Telling me to suck it up and act like I have a pair. 

Telling me that when things DO GET RIGHT AGAIN....to 'act like you been there'. 

Yeah man, I'm trying to tell you My Dad is still HERE AND IF NEED BE I will repeat.

Funny things is, I don't know if I'm saying it to convince you... or reminding myself so that I will feel complete.... 

I mean I don't want to be the weirdo who runs around like Nutso...

Tapping imaginary backboards and playing imaginary games with much vigor and gusto. 

Talking to 'ghosts of Christmas' pasts, cussing and laughing with my Dad when no one can see. 

Wait, I already do similar things like that, who I am kidding? I cope how I cope. Man this me. 

So yeah I'm gonna talk to him. Probably have a couple of odd things I do in his memory.

He is still here with me. Think like how Jay-Z would get them collect calls from his boy Emory.

He calls me up in my mind to drop a gem or two............................

(........Puts the proverbial pen down....We will be here all day... This 'poem' has no end....To be continued...)

Jon Stewart with the Megyn Kelly zing.... video....He called her a Right Winged Samson..

This is the problem with entitlement,,,,They're really only entitlements when they are something other people want....When it is something that YOU WANT, they're a HALLMARK OF A CIVILIZED SOCIETY...- Jon Stewart...Watch the video to see what prompted him to say that...Hilarity..



Not the first time he has done that but yeah....he got her. Again.