(Words) The Pomp & Circumstance of 'Insert Name Here' Day.. Lowering 'the expecations' and then turning around & getting mad about it...

I guess I SHOULD start this off by saying Happy Mother's Day. So I will. Happy Mother's Day to all. If you are a Mother, playing the role of Mom, yadda yadda yadda yadda..I'm talking to you. Does this apply to Father's Day too? See the end of the post..

Back to the title of the post though...


" I don't care...It's just one day..." - The correct answer everyone KNOWS they should give AND MEAN for these days. Anyone with any sense anyway. 


"I can't believe.." I just expected more....." "I gave hints after I said I didn't care though..." - What almost ALWAYS ENDS UP HAPPENING when things go awry on these days.. Or just some underlying shade for few DAYS...

I'm probably not alone in this one as being SOMETHING THAT GETS ON MY NERVES. Like NO OTHER. It doesn't matter from WHO EITHER. Child, Woman, Man. Mother. SO. My own kids. Friends. I don't discriminate or tolerate this shit. Especially in regards to 'certain days', 'certain events' and the like. 

Even more cumbersome is the 'built in the excuse' that I or anybody else should 'already know that the person who is saying 'I don't care about....(insert whatever it is)" REALLY DOESN'T MEAN IT AND I SHOULD GO ABOVE AND BEYOND ANYWAY SO THAT THEY CAN FEEL 'SPECIAL'. 

Listen man, we are ADULTS. Adults I say! Times like these are NOT THE OPPORTUNITY to revert back to being a fucking baby who needs to be 'coddled and cajoled' into being 'wanted'. No sir/ma'am. Nobody has time for that. Out here guessing and shit. Then...then.. when folks go through ALL THE TROUBLE TO DO WHAT YOU SAID YOU DIDN'T 'want them to do' and you don't respond with enthusiasm, who is at fault? Yep...you guessed it.... 


We are...'cause you said "Don't bother..I told you don't go through all of that trouble...You shouldn't have done shit....Told you I didn't care..."

Let SOMETHING 'special' not be done though...-_-? Then we are still at fault... I've seen COUNTLESS NUMBERS OF FOLKS be in the proverbial 'doghouse' because of that. Not like they weren't HEADED THERE ANYWAY 'cause of the aforementioned paragraphs. It is a PRETTY HOPELESS SITUATION. (Insert your cliches here for it..) 


 SO I would like to start with this first. If you want something special done, SAY THAT SHIT. Don't be wishy washy about it. Not that I don't find the fact that you even want it that way ONLY ON THESE PARTICULAR DAYS a little disturbing. I do... just don't play the 'throw the stone/hide the hands' game with it. Just like someone who isn't a ' OVER THE TOP gift giver' shouldn't play that game either. Let it be known where you stand on that issue. I would also like to point out, as I will a few more times in this post, that some of you HAVE IT REALLY GOOD DURING THE COURSE OF THE YEAR SO ALL THESE 'DEMANDS' YOU ARE OUT HERE MAKING ARE PRETTY SILLY.  

Some of you DO HAVE SONS/daughters WHO COME TO SEE ABOUT YOU OR CALL YOU EVERY DAY. Make arrangements for you to be taken care of in lieu of their absence. Stay extended times In addition to him taking care of his own HOME in the manner that you raised him to do so in.

Some of you do have boyfriends, co-parents, husbands, ex-husbands that DO MAKE SURE THAT THE KIDS (and you) are taken care of FAR AND AWAY beyond the call of what are wrongfully considered 'womanly duties. Keeping hot meals (cooked from scratch) on tables, doing what was once considered the woman's role of 'showing up at the school for school functions that DO NOT INVOLVE DISCIPLINE OF THE CHILD and the like IN ADDITION TO THE OTHER 'MANLY RESPONSIBILITIES' THAT HE TAKES ON that you REAP THE BENEFITS FROM. Nothing like saying "I'm gonna be home late..." just to let him know you are SAFE AND THAT'S IT knowing that he can and will handle everything else at home 'cause that is WHAT HE ALREADY DOES... 

So lets' not get out here and get bitter because Sally down the street got the 'makeup for all the shit I don't do during the year' treatment aight? Sally's son/husband/man PROBABLY HAS A LITTLE MORE TIME ON HIS HANDS..ya underdig?



It is pretty much one of the more selfish stances in the World if you REALLY DON'T MEAN IT WHEN YOU SAY 'I don't care'/you get upset when you see others 'getting stuff' when you know you get it YEAR ROUND. ...Especially if you are going to then turn around and succumb to all the 'pressures and the like' from any pomp and circumstance that is being paraded around you by others. You know the:

 'Didn't anyone do XYZ for you?"
 
'You mean he/she/they didn't take you out/get you to a overpriced dinner/crowded commercialized place/overpriced gift because the stores KNOW THAT YOU ARE 'OBLIGATED TO BUY ON THIS DAY' GIFT? 


Or my that opening salvo of ALL SALVOS....


"JUST WHAT DID HE/SHE/THEY for you today 'cause you know (insert the names) took me XYZ and treated me like a (insert the title here) 


All of that shit is CUTE AS CAN BE. If you can do it, GO DO IT. Every last bit of it. Let me tell you one fucking thing RIGHT NOW THOUGH. 




If you are out here trying to take ONE DAY AND MAKE UP FOR THE OTHER 364 (365 ON THIS LEAP YEAR!) DAYS THAT YOU AREN'T DOING SHIT/SLANDERING FOLKS WHO YOU FEEL AREN'T DOING ENOUGH/FEELING BAD BECAUSE YOU AREN'T GETTING WHAT OTHERS ARE GETTING EVEN THOUGH THE REST OF THE YEAR YOU HAVE WHAT IT IS THEY WANT OUT OF LIFE.....


You are pretty fucking sad.You can't make up for it all in one day. You can't have it made up TO YOU all in one day. You SURELY can't be outchea type upset over material things when you are getting the intangibles that others are YEARNING FOR AND COMPENSATING FOR with the gifts they get throughout the year. Nope. Sorry.



Why would I say it like that? 'Cause that is the only way some of you will hear me. That's why. If I said it nicely, you would come out here with the 'But if...' and all of that shit. I don't want to hear it though...

Who gives a shit if 'such and such went by to see his MOTHER TODAY and took her to XYZ' WHEN I'M (others too) OUT HERE MAKING SURE HIS MOTHER DOESN'T HAVE TO PULL HER TRASH CANS DOWN TO THE CURB every day 'cause his 'right up the street ass doesn't come through to see her?

Who cares if 'such and such' took his girl/baby mother/wife' to WHEREVER HE TOOK HER, TOOK THE KIDS FOR 'ONE DAY', BOUGHT HER A PAIR OF 'WHATEVER HE BOUGHT' OR DID whatever he did WHEN THE OTHER 364 DAYS OF THE YEAR, he doesn't 'help her', doesn't cook, doesn't 'babysit his own kids'*, or pretty much doesn't do make any other sacrifices outchea. 


Who cares if on Christmas, there's a new car sitting out front for 'such and such' EVERY YEAR when you by June, cats are getting put out of their HOUSE AGAIN 'cause bills aren't paid? 




.....Not me... And neither should you. It is being done for show for the most part and in many cases, it is a 'THE MAKEUP CALL'. Which is why you see so many folks in flux the days after. It almost always turns into 'I knew that 'treatment' wouldn't last....' Sure it is nice to do for folks and go above and beyond at times. However, if your normal level of doing is a two an eight level effort will only magnify the two level effort QUICK FAST AND IN A HURRY. Ya'll don't hear me out here though.. Think about it though.


Look, I'm NOT saying 'don't do anything for anybody' on these 'special days'. Nope. What I am saying is, while the days are special, your EVERY DAY LIFE ACTIONS should be indicative of that. That's what I am saying. What I am saying is if you are one of these 'conflicted folks' who KNOWS WHILE YOU MAY NOT GET THE THINGS FROM whomever is in your Life material wise on these commercial days but who gets ALL THE LOVE, SUPPORT, AND THE LIKE FROM THEM THE REST OF THE YEAR don't be sour. Trust me...Those folks who got something today can't 'use what they got' today to replace the voids that are missing MOST TIMES** These are the same folks who are sitting back the REST OF THE YEAR, wishing that their son/daughter DID CALL THEM EVERYDAY, did STAY OUTTA TROUBLE AND NOT CAUSE THEM STRESS, FINANCIAL HARDSHIPS AND EMOTIONAL DISTRESS WITH THEIR BULLSHIT, did come see their kids, did TAKE CARE OF THEIR KIDS, did CHIP AND HELP/TAKE THE FUCK OVER with their kids and all of the other things that they applaud 'you for having in your Life'. Just remember that..


So Happy Mother's Day to everyone out there. Show your mother or the mothers in your lives some love. Try and remember that the OTHER DAYS OF THE YEAR THOUGH and any Mothers out there who didn't get 'the treatment' but gets 'THE TREATMENT' all the rest of the days of the year? Rest easy. Tomorrow, those that care will still be on the job and those that 'faked it' today 'cause the spotlight was on, will be gone. Let folks have today though. 


Which would you rather have? The 'perfect Mother's Day' or the 'there for you all year round' person? I know what I would pick... It's one day. It is just like Valentine's Day to me honestly. You need ONE DAY to remember you LOVE YOUR MOMMA? Or those that are Mother's around you? Word? Oh okay.... 






Oh..I almost forgot what I said at the beginning of the post. @ Father's Day. You know what? It DOES APPLY.  Not because it is 'fair' but because it is TRUE. I mean, if you don't appreciate the VERY FEW MEN OUT HERE ACTING LIKE FATHERS the other 364....There's a problem. Sorry. Ditto if you have told everyone around you that 'All you need is a beer and some quiet time'..you can't get mad if all you get is...well....SOME BEER AND SOME QUIET TIME. If you want MORE, you need to say it but you PROBABLY WANT TO TAKE IN CONSIDERATION ALL THAT IS DONE FOR YOU DURING THE COURSE OF THE YEAR by those that care. That's all I'm gonna say about that.. I won't be as thinly veiled about that day 'cause it INVOLVES ME. If I want something specific, I'm probably gonna MAKE IT HAPPEN and not wait to see 'if it does happen'. That's just me though...

*You can't babysit your OWN KIDS. They are yours. Oxymoron if there EVER WAS ONE..  


**This is the part where I have to compensate for some of you as your inner hit dog starts to com...I mean lack of reading comprehension begins to come out. I said SOME. Which would be to say that there are people can GIVE and STILL DO THEIR JOB THE REST OF THE YEAR. If you THINK I AM TALKING ABOUT YOU WELL THEN...THAT'S your issue. Not mine..Keep barking though....dawg.. 

(Yawns) I guess it is time to make the quarterly..."I see you out there"... Post...

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(Chat Series) @Carolinaware's Own The Chat Series with @TANlAAA

Back with another installment. Been awhile..











We are back here at Carolinaware's Own The Warehouse with the Chat Series. This time we are going to take a DIFFERENT APPROACH TO THE SERIES. Oh it is still going to be an interview trust me. This one is going to get a little 'dirty' though...as well as dispel some shit, probably 'ignite' some shit and just...well..BE THE SHIT...

She one of my favorite follows on Twitter as she is a straight shooter like me. We GO WAY WAY BACK in this Internet shit which we will get into PRETTY QUICKLY in the Interview.

She is a former 2 X Chromosome of the Week here. She is HEAVY out here on Twitter if you use it like that. Some of you have seen her tweets glide across your TL once or twice. Hell, some of you either love her, hate her or don't know enough truth to do either. We are going to fix SOME OF THAT today hopefully. So keep scrolling down, 'cause I know you are interested as if you weren't you would not have clicked the link, and dig in to this latest installment of 'The Chat Series' with Carolinaware... 





Carolinaware = Bold text
Tania = Lets see just how smart some of you really are or if you are as smart as you mouth off to be on Twitter.

CW- Evening ma'am. We are gonna get RIGHT TO IT.. Tell the good folks how old you are, your ACTUAL NATIONALITY/RACE/WHATEVER FOLKS WANT TO CALL IT (Yes, Mr./Mrs Know It All, we ALL KNOW THERE IS A CORRECT TERM. Calm that shit down right now though..@ some of you), WEIGHT and location.. *
Age: 22

Nationality: Puerto Rican

Height: 5'4ish

Weight:
HA! This is where the mystery comes to an end... I'm 175














Hometown/location: Milwaukee, WI

(Blogger's note) Shit just got real no? @ the information. I know....keep reading though...Stand up woman I tell you. Salute to HER FOR ANSWERING THAT QUESTION.




CW- First of all, we have a lil history so we are gonna just CUT TO THE CHASE OF THAT REALLY QUICK.

Were you on Crushspot? (Of course I know the answer but yeah..) Let the folks know.. Reason I ask is because I think that is IMPORTANT TO NOTE that you have 'experience' at this 'Internet shit'.

T- YES! My first name on there was _sl0re and then I changed it to simple ass 'tania.'

CW- The good ole days. What up Vern? (Founder of Crushspot who lived out in Vegas. Shoutout to the homie who branched off with Paxed too. I see you out here in these Twitter streets cuh.). Lot of alums ALL OVER TWITTER/TUMBLR from that spot. These 'new niggas out here acting like they 'invented the Internet' or ANY OF THIS SHIT they are doing is new though. 2001 says Hello. So this isn't your 'first' Internet' experience like it is for some of these new niggas out here?

T- Naaah. I've been around since the AOL days, actually. I got a couple years under my belt. Lol


CW- Same here. Hence the words I just gave in the last response.. Straight no chaser question next... Do you have a man? I mean again, you answer this all the time but cats are dense out this bitch so LETS JUST PUT THAT SHIT OUT THERE as of today...


No sir, I do not. I am currently speaking to someone, though. ;)


CW- I guess this is the part where I am supposed to ask if he is on Twitter huh? Nope. Not gonna do it. You will let folks know THAT ONE when you (or him) are ready. Lotta smoke talk on your daily feed too. Tell me something....Are you REALLY OUT HERE SMOKING SOMETHING every SINGLE DAY like you tweet? Cats wanna know..




T- Fuck yeah I am. I smoke every day of the week. No reason for me to lie. It's how I stay sane on twitter! Lol



CW- Aight..we have asked some PRETTY BASIC QUESTIONS albeit one that NOBODY PROBABLY THOUGHT YOU WOULD HAVE THE GUTS TO ANSWER but now lets get deep with it one time...

ARE YOU A PART OF BLACK TWITTER? Please clear this up for me. If NOT, then how is it that you ALWAYS seem to find yourself on the 'receiving end' of numerous tweets from the folks who 'are'? If you are, what is your ranking within its hierarchy? Why isn't there a Latin Twitter btw in your opinion?

T- I don't really think I'm a part of Black twitter per se (Blogger's Note: Better get your dictionary/Thesaurus out before you question the spelling..Don't get embarrassed @ questioning it...) , but a lot of the people that fuck with me would put me in that group. I wouldn't though for the simple fact that I'm not lonely, bitter, malicious, or bored with my life to even wanna be a part of that group. I'm at my own 'table'... I just feel like since I'm confident and speak my mind, a lot of people find that reason enough to not like me. But fuck it, slander is love.



CW- (Looks at the camera..Ya'll niggas entertained yet? @ that last answer) 

Without naming names, approximately how many of your followers have a 'I hate that bitch' in public/"I want you BITCH' relationship with you in your DMs? You know, sending them shots on Twitter but trying to 'take shots' at the pussy?

T- Lord, there's A LOT. It's mostly the niggas that I use to fuck with but ended up not talking anymore that are the most bitter. It's a pattern with these niggas.

CW- I can't wait to hear the 'yelping' in your TL about that ANSWER. @ the hit dogs. Welp. Next question.. This is one I see crawl through your mentions every once in awhile so I thought I would give you the platform to address it.


ARE YOU AND 'Darling Niki' (that's one 'k' you ignorant fucks...GET IT RIGHT!) sisters? Just settle this shit once and for all..RIGHT HERE..
Lovers?

T- LOL.  Nah we aren't related at all. As far as lovers, if she let me for one night I'd show her what I'm about! Just kidding just kidding. Love you Niki!!

CW- Are there any of your followers that you would LEGIT meet up with and smoke with? (Nothing more)
T- Man hell yeah!  I actually do that all the time. But to be honest, a good portion of the time people want something from me In return so it's hard to just chill and smoke. ;(


CW- Again, but nobody 'wants' you according to some of these niggas..:) That dispels that one. Who is your favorite RAPPER/ACTOR/CELEB that you follow on Twitter? Why?

T- Lol I don't really follow any of those to be honest besides Joe Budden. And I follow him for the thirst traps he be settin. Loooord yes!!!

CW- There you go with that honesty and shit again.. (Covers ears) I'm just fucking with you. I think we all have a 'superficial follow' or a 100...Fuck it. Aight then, how about this...Who is your favorite 'non celeb', that you follow?

@carolinaware, @gemsdrunk @NinoBeige just to name a few.. Y'all  have always been supportive and shit when shit hits the fan on Twitter. I appreciate that a lot because I don't have many people there for me when shit like that happens. I really do love y'all.

CW-  I guess I should say I didn't prompt you to say that shit but these skeptical ass niggas.....You know what? Fuck 'em though. Thank you for that. I appreciate that. For real. You know me. I don't conform. Not in my nature. At all. I don't give a fuck WHO it is. So anytime I see that in someone else, I gravitate towards it. You are always good money over here. EVEN WHEN WE DISAGREE.. (Shocking...people really do that and can still be cool. What a concept? You niggas should try it sometime.. Here's another one I noticed. You KEEP A BAD YOUNG LADY IN THAT TL OVER THERE. I mean they are a FLOCK OF 'EM. How is it that you seem to have ALL OF THOSE SEXY LADIES following you on Twitter?

T- I'M A CHICK MAGNET DUUUUUH. LOL But nah, pretty chicks always attract other pretty chicks. I'm just blessed to have them on my team.

CW- 'Cause I walk like a Pimp and talk like a Mack...@ that answer. I love it. Aight lets get into the next part: 


The body and what it might 'do':


Tell me WHAT your favorite part of YOUR body is? Tell me what the folks who AREN'T HIDING BEHIND THE MASK OF A COMPUTER who SEE YOU IN PERSON tell you they like the best about your features?

T- My thighs, no doubt about that. They're so soft and awesome like pillows. Lol  People love me from head to toe though for real. The most features people compliment are my eyes, my smile, and of course my BUTT! ;)

CW- Oh WE HERE AT Carolinaware's Own KNOW ALL ABOUT THAT LOVE.. I still remember the numbers your post did when folks found out there was an ass shot of you on here.. All types of different IP addresses showing up on the Stat Tracker that day boy let me tell ya.. Aight..now we have to talk about your movement. Don't coy on me now either... 


Tell me in DETAIL why you are such a staunch advocate of the 'Eat the butt' program? Matter of fact, for those of who may be 'ignorant' to the movement, take this time to go on ahead and BREAK IT DOWN FOR 'EM..






T- Man listen, that shit feels amazing. It's like heaven when a nigga makes out with the bootyhole. I've actually came off the act. And for those who think a nigga gotta stick his whole tongue in the ass, naw. He ain't got to. He can just lick around it, massage/Flick it with his tongue ;) that's how I like it, actually.

CW- (BALLOON KNOT!! - Phontigallo) Now that's how you fucking answer a question. From now on, THAT'S HOW YOU ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS ON TWITTER...Oh wait..you do...My bad... Aight next question... Again...so niggas KNOW IT IS REAL... On AVERAGE, how many SERIOUS offers do you get from your followers to 'join the Eat the butt' program by making a 'personal umm...'donation' to the program?

T- Lol COUNTLESS! I don't like to brag but my DMs and mentions really do stay packed with the requests. It's always nice to see that I have men willing to do anything to eat my butt lol

CW- (Birdman hand rubs) If you EVER have any issues with cats acting up...nevermind..we can sidebar about alladat later... Next question! Do you have any piercings besides in your ear?

T- Yes, my lip, and my hood. Nipples coming soon!

CW- Well now... That sounds...Focus Carolinaware..focus nigga..... Aight since we are already down and dirty with it outchea....Sloppy mouth only or sloppy with the hands and the mouth?
T- It wouldn't be right if I wasn't getting sloppy with my hands involved too!


CW- If you aren't getting sloppy you aren't doing it right.. @ my motto. I fucks with it. Even though I don't smoke, COUNTLESS NUMBERS of my blog followers (and your followers do too) DO SMOKE So this next question is for them... Smoked out session or weed free?


T- Smoked out session EVERY DAY.

CW- Bikini or one piece? 

T- Bikini most definitely.

CW- Best beach you have EVER BEEN TO?

T- Culebra Beach in Culebra, Puerto Rico. Beautiful place. The water is crystal clear.

CW- Give me three spots in your town that if I visit, I HAVE TO GO TO EAT AT.

T- Sobelmans Tallgrass, Mazos, and Kopps. All burger joins that have amazing burgers.

CW- This next one is important. I see you tweet it often but I have to ask you.....Are THE 'PICTURES' that you receive REALLY SAFE WITH YOU? @ you not leaking flicks...
T- Yes they are. I've never leaked anyone's pics and I don't plan on it. If I was that person I couldve been exposed half the niggas that come at me on a daily basis. But I'm chillin. I'm too cool for that. ;)

CW- Stunt on playgirl...Stunt on.. @ you shining on niggas right now.. Same ones probably doing the dissing. Is it really 'just Twitter' for some of the folks you follow or this shit just a bit more in YOUR OBSERVATION?

T- It's never 'just twitter' ... These people out here fucking their followers, catching feelings, and having babies with em. Fuck all that 'it's just twitter' shit. It's still real life

CW- Tell these motherfuckers ONE MORE FUCKING TIME PLEASE... Aight, we are about to go a little deeper..Have you ever been 'propositioned' to be flown out by one of your followers? Would you go?

T- Oh of course. A couple of my followers want me in their city, but to be honest I don't take these niggas seriously. They just be talking. Making it sound good.

CW- Duly noted and good to hear. I see ya'll out here too. Putting your bids in. I ain't mad at cha- Pac. Aight LAST QUESTION...  Would you be open to a 'Tweet up' of some sorts involving your 'safe' followers? (Obviously not the assholes 'cause..well...they are assholes...lol)

T- Yeah I would. I'm all about having a good ass time. Smokin and drinking. No drama. Hell yeah I'd be down for that!!




CW- THANK YOU LOVE for putting up with my questions... I appreciate that. Hopefully, we put some bullshit to rest today, INFORMED SOME FOLKS and put others on notice outchea with this..




T- It was definitely not a problem doing this for your blog. You know im a big supporter so ill do anything for you & the blog. I just thank you for giving me the web space to show people who i really am in a way. I appreciate that. So Thank YOU! ;) ❤




* NOW YOU KNOW WE MUST BE COOL. I love her for that. @ revealing her weight. Secure woman right there. Fuck what you heard.

(Pictures) Twitter 2 X Chromosome of the Week (Part 2): @Originale_Pink

Now this one is going to be a BIT different. Yes, I am going to post pictures of her. FIRST THOUGH, I am going to post something that she put on Tumblr that is VERY VERY VERY VERY VERY VERY important. It IS PERSONAL TO HER but she decided to share it. Why? "Cause that is what I do. That's why. I know a LOT OF DUDES come here to look at the pictures but I HAVE PLENTY OF WOMEN WHO DO TOO. And this is for them. Well, wait, I shouldn't just say that. This COULD be for a fellow who has a mother, a DAUGHTER or a girl/woman/wife WHO MAY ONE DAY HAVE TO FACE WHAT SHE HAS FACED. I'd be willing to bet you money that some of you already have someone in your midst who has faced it. So yeah...this one is going to be a little different. It is HER story. Not mine. I didn't write. Hell, I'm 'stealing' it from her Tumblr (with back credit of course 'cause I want you to know where I got it from..) I know for many of you, the Internet is a place for jokes, dissing, seeing fights and ass and titties. Well, this time THE TITTIES will have a little more meaning..Ya feel me? (Hopes she doesn't mind me doing this. I actually think this is important..and maybe it will help some young lady go get hers examined..)





http://originale-pink.tumblr.com/post/19625624671/my-first-mammogram-a-candid-and-personal-account-part

My First Mammogram: A candid and personal account. Part I.

Mammograms are really sort of a gift. You can either catch something early or count your lucky stars because nothing was discovered. Either way, you’re ahead of the game.
Charlotte Ross 

I went in for my annual GYN appointment, and usually am never really all to worried about it, but after seeing my Aunt have a breast removed, I was a little edgy. 

 “I have been experiencing breast tenderness ever since I can remember but lately it’s been hell a week before and after my period. I have often noticed masses of tissue one week and then it’s gone the next.”
Originale Pink

My doctor conducted a manual breast exam. She kneaded and manipulated my breasts with her finger tips, and low and behold she felt a “module” she never said lump.  She said, “it feels smooth and is probably nothing” but, I should get a sonogram.
My heart sunk into my stomach and my tear ducts wanted to spill hot salty tears down my flushed cheeks, I held it together and got dressed.  As I approached the receptionist’s desk, my knees buckled a little and I said to myself “this is not a punishment from God, God does not give people cancer.”  

I walked out of the office, and my mind raced, but a voice deep inside said “Don’t be a punk, make the appointment.”  I dialed the number to the Breast Imaging center closest to my office a recording greeted me and asked if I would like to make an appointment, I pressed one; all the while thinking I’m going to get this sonogram and everything will be fine.  A woman’s voice rings in my ear, and I tell her I would like to set an appointment for a sonogram, she asks my age, DOB, insurance carrier, etc.  She pauses, and says as a precaution you should have a mammogram on both breasts and sonogram on both breasts as well.  My heart beat quickens and I feel hot and it is perfectly cool outside.  My head spins and I just want to faint.  l make the appointment even though I need a new script from my doctor and now I need to call my insurance carrier to see if they cover my mammogram at 100%.  So many things to remember, I just wanted a sonogram.



Now I didn’t want to scare myself out of my appointment, so I didn’t Google, I didn’t call anyone, and I didn’t discuss it.  I carried on pretty much like nothing had happened.  I was in semi denial.  I would not have survived Thanksgiving had I even began to research and browse the “images” on line.  I was going to do this cold turkey; I am a bit of a drama queen and a smidgen of a hypochondriac.  I tweeted briefly that I needed a mammogram and received a few mentions with prayers and you will be fine’s, but I digress.
Now there are some things that your doctor should tell you before a mammogram, like A.) take someone with you, B.) Watch your salt/caffeine intake C.) Bring some sort of entertainment with you other than your phone D.) Dress comfortably as you will be removing the top half of your clothing and E.) Prepare to have your breasts handled by a couple strangers..........

 PLEASE GO READ THE REST at her Tumblr..I think it is that important. You can find out 'how she's doing' there... @ the other parts to her story.

(Blogger's note) This part RIGHT HERE: 

 "Now I didn’t want to scare myself out of my appointment, so I didn’t Google, I didn’t call anyone, and I didn’t discuss it."

I'm not a 'doctor dude' either. I've DONE EXACTLY that so even though I OBVIOUSLY don't have her issues (although MEN CAN GET BREAST CANCER..DON'T GET IT FUCKED UP..), I FELT THAT WHEN SHE SAID IT. That resonated with me. You could scare the SHIT OUTTA YOURSELF with information on Google, horror stories from informed and MISINFORMED FRIENDS.... So yeah.... 

I just wanted to give you PART of her story. PART 2 IS AN EVEN better READ... Go check it...

 http://originale-pink.tumblr.com/post/19627979625/my-first-mammogram-a-candid-and-personal-account-part





Now she is a FUNNY ASS PERSON and an excellent follow. She does nice little 20 questions that get REALLY CANDID and of course if you say something that is SENSIBLE, she will RT you or comment back. Her shit is private though so don't feel bad if she doesn't take you in or follow you back. That's just how it goes. She doesn't even follow ME on my main account. So don't take it personal. Go follow her Tumblr if she doesn't let you in on Twitter..

 

 






















































I had this post in the can FOR AWHILE but I was hesitant to make it. Then I thought about it..


Her story is probably one that could help some other young lady (or perhaps some young man who is dealing with a young lady in her situation) so I decided to go ahead and run it TONIGHT. Especially since I usually cover something serious on Sundays.. This does both. Covers some fun ('cause believe me, she HAS FUN with her...umm...yeah...@ my TL) and some thing VERY SERIOUS.

(Video) Courtesy of @SHEEmusic: Rap Your Way into an Occupation. Emcee Employment, Hip-Hop Workforce

She gave some REALLY good tips....

Still relevant. I saw this a couple of years ago but she bought it back up on the TL.. Thought I would share it.

(Words) @IamDEELISHIS aka London Charles w/the QOTD: A SERIOUS crime is committed & u later discover the criminal is your..

Here is the FULL QUESTION..

The answers rolled in heavy too. 


You can always go back to her TL to see some of the answers or click on the hyper links I put up when I start citing examples.

As you can imagine, the answers ran the gamut. From THE EMPHATIC YES to the EQUALLY UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES NO... There are mottos being ran up and down the TL. Creedos if you will. A lot of 'We see who would do what when you know who does you know what' and all of that shit. As you can see BELOW the question is..MY ANSWER...

Well the first part... Here is the rest...

 https://twitter.com/#!/carolinaware/status/195582601174597632

 https://twitter.com/#!/carolinaware/status/195586998315130880



 You know, just a couple of weeks ago, as a collective, we were ALL pretty much screaming for justice in regards to Trayvon. We wanted the 'police to do their job' and take George Zimmerman into custody. His FOLKS were on TV, telling us all about the 'George they knew and loved' and how his intent was XYZ and the like. You know what the OVERWHELMING majority of you said?


GET GEORGE ZIMMERMAN'S FATHER, BROTHER AND FRIEND THE ENTIRE FUCK OFF OF MY TV SCREEN WITH THIS BULLSHIT....- You

The reactions to London's question were EXACTLY why I was questioning whether or not some of you were 'sincere' in your 'fight' for Trayvon as I KNEW where you stood on issues like THIS ONE HERE. @ the question she posed. You know what though, let me not assume that the folks who are reading this DO FEEL THAT WAY....

What would YOU do in the situation that London proposed as far as your family? If YOUR KIN WAS THE ONE WHO GUNNED DOWN TRAYVON MARTIN? @ serious crime. 

Kinda changes things a bit doesn't it? @ those of you who want to 'quote' this saying or saying 'let the police do their job'..




Speaking of those 'sayings', I see a WHOLE LOT OF FOLKS spouting them off like they 'know what it means' but clearly by their 'application' of them, they do not. I HATE to get religious on ya'll but if you are going TO QUOTE SOMETHING THAT IS IN THE BIBLE, I can't allow you to twist into some bullshit. Sorry....

I am my brother's keeper


 In Genesis, Chapter 4 -- God asked Cain after he killed Abel out of rank jealousy this simple question. "Where is your brother, Abel? [i]" Cain's infamous response as SOME OF YOU KNOW WAS...

 "I don't know,"  "Am I my brother's keeper?

Now if you KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT BEING A SMART ASS, as some of you do, YOU KNOW GOOD AND DAMM WELL Cain wasn't being 'nice' when he replied to God. In fact, he said that in hopes that God would just basically say..'Yeah you are right, it wasn't your turn to watch him..." We all know, at least those of us in sound mind, that Cain was being a smart ass when he said it. FURTHERMORE, the saying isn't "I am Brother keeper" but rather a QUESTION of whether or not he was his keeper. (sighs) So citing that 'quote' as a reason why you wouldn't do it 'cause you are 'his keeper' is false within itself 'cause that wasn't the intent of the initial statement.

Why do we use it out of context? I think I have an idea why...The movies... Particularly this one...

 


http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=d6L7uowUEXc#t=49s



 Fly scene. Classic movie LOOSELY based off of some fabrication of a real dealer. The credits rolled on that one though and MILLIONS UPON MILLIONS OF US WENT BACK TO OUR LIVES.. 


.0000333 went back to being the 'Nino' of the block/neighborhood. The rest of us? Went back to living our regular lives. How so many of us managed to convince ourselves that those are the codes we should be living by, even though we aren't involved in any 'organized crime' (although some of you want us to believe you are) is ASTOUNDING TO ME. Everybody wants to live it but no one wants to pay the price. There's a price with that. Didn't ya'll get that out of the movie or did you only see him with the money? He DIDN'T WIN. I could see if he won and you saying "See, he WON! I can take those rules he had and win..." He didn't. -_- No other way to say it. I don't know too many folks who are officially retired from that game who won btw. A few..Not many though. I know HUNDREDS who put their 'uniform on though' and suited up. Rest their souls too 'cause if I could have 'sold them a better dream' than the one they got sold, I would have. They made the decision though. Not me.

 'An offence against God is an offence against man, and in like manner an offence against man is an offence against God, since man is a creature of God. Either offence is criminal.' 



That was our mentality prior to 'coming here'. @ that passage. I implore you to go do the research on it on your own though. Don't take my word for it. Please. Learn yourself.








Since we have gotten our freedom, it seems that we have lost that 'mentality'. Probably because we saw others succeeding doing it a different way. Thing is, while some of us are doing okay, the VAST MAJORITY of us are not. Why is that I wonder? I mean we DEFINITELY suffer from 'other folks' not liking us but we have taken the knife by the handle and started stabbing ourselves. We've have conformed to the very oppressor we hate in a LOT OF WAYS. Some of the VERY FREEDOMS that some of you ENJOY and love to brag about 'your ancestors' fighting for are being DESTROYED by you when you fall into the line of thinking some of you have.  If you are new, I have a saying that kinda sums it up pretty succinctly. My twitter followers and blog readers know it well and now I will share it with you...

"Whitey has taught some of you VERY WELL... " @ the oppressive tactics that you picked up from 'him' along the way. He has you out here 'enslaving' yourselves. Putting yourselves in a box. Doing his dirty work for 'him'. I can only imagine how 'they' * must sit back and look in amazement as we 'do it to ourselves'. You know...

Kill each other. 

Segregate each other by either 'disassociating ourselves' from those who HAVE MONEY (Act like you don't do that... I dare you. Much shit as ya'll talk about Black folks who 'have money'. Nigga please..) or don't have money. The TOTAL DISREGARD THAT BOTH OF THOSE SECTS have for those of us who are in 'the middle'. Who are neither rich nor poor which is a great some. Think MJ in 'Wanna Be Starting Something' as a reference..


" Too high to get over. Yeah yeah...too low to get under....yeah yeah..You're stuck in the middle...." 

Make sense now? Good. If not, ask your 'go to smart person' to break it down for you. I tried. 

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Yeah those white folks must sit back and have QUITE THE CHUCKLE at us when we have those discussions like the one that was going on London's TL . I know I would as I watched us 'validate' some of the bullshit we do.

"Look at the dumb niggers. Fighting for respect amongst each other by NOT DENOUNCING crimes done by their own people AGAINST THEIR OWN PEOPLE. Even we don't DO THAT SHIT. Sure, we 'act' appalled when folks do things but we are gonna turn in WHOEVER is fucking shit up in the community that threatens its safety and sanctity. Period.

You think we could get away with putting up a 'Stop Snitching' sign on one of those Clear Channel billboards or would that be too obvious? Naw...let them keep spreading the word. They will do our job for us. Kill each other, keep the cops OCCUPIED 'doing their job' while NOBODY TALKS and they won't ACTIVELY pursuing getting better. Let 'em 'talk about getting better..We aren't worried. They are too busy kicking each OTHER DOWN IN THE CRAB BARREL to worry about on a whole... The ones up here with us are okay though. We can deal with them. Those 'others'? Let them suffer... " - The very white people WHO ARE IN POWER who some of ya'll LOVE who secretly hate you.

Survival is survival @ the 'excuse' some of you are gonna cite as to why you do what you do. No problem with that. Survive. I got it. At some point though, you have to understand the DAMAGE that does. George Zimmerman's dumb ass 'claimed he wanted to survive' when he shot Trayvon. We didn't believe him now did we? Why should I believe you then when I see you doing or supporting mentalities about crimes that are hurting OUR COMMUNITY? Why shouldn't I be just as adamant about YOU? Because you are black? Nigga please. If I got in some of ya'lls way and you had to 'gun me down', you'd do it without thinking twice. I don't go around pretending to care about those that don't care about me all because I am 'positive' by nature. Nope. Sorry. Supporting 'not turning in your brother' or MORE IMPORTANTLY NOT TRYING TO GET HIM TO DO IT HIMSELF FOR HIS OWN SAFETY IS ASININE. Sorry. You can't 'make that man 'do anything' but you would be remiss and not 'being his keeper at all' by cosigning a BIGGER MISTAKE by running when the time comes that the authorities find out. 'Cause if it 'got back to you' that your sibling did the crime, there's a REASON FOR THAT. The cops ALREADY KNOW. Somebody 'already snitched.' For some 'street smart people', ya'll aren't very smart. That kinda warning is the 'Shit, I done set the wheels in motion so let me at least warn him/her so they don't suspect I said shit' thing folks do. Which is ANOTHER POST within itself...smh If you get word your sibling did a crime from 'the Streets" then you should assume 'THE STREETS' have already sold your sibling out the window. No honor in upholding any 'honor' them at that point IMO. Ya'll keep on though. Do your thing... Keep on giving a shit about folks who don't give ONE FUCK ABOUT YOU.  @ the folks whose respect you want. I'll keep my sibling 'alive' thank you. "Cause I know that once the 'law' gets involved, there is a HIGH CHANCE he might get shot if he SNEEZES wrong at a cop. I don't want that for him. I'm not TRYING TO BURY HIM, PUT HIM ON A T-SHIRT and mourn him. I want him alive and well. I want his kids to see him. Even if they don't 'shoot him', they will put him UNDER THE JAIL for running. Again..I don't want that either. He clearly already did something that is going to get him locked up. If I am his 'keeper', I'd advise him/her to do the thing that would get him the least amount of time/keeps him out of danger. That's just common sense. As usual though, common sense just isn't that common I see.....







*Not all white folks or folks of non color are out to get us btw. I know that. Clearly there are some that STILL ARE THOUGH. You folks TALK ABOUT THEM DAILY! I also have seen them with my own eyes.. 

(Words) Dear Folks Who Want to The World to use 'The Rooney Rules' in their dating lives 'cause your Life sucked..

The Internet is a BEAUTIFUL PLACE. Lets make NO MISTAKE ABOUT THAT. I enjoy being on it. I enjoy meeting new folks, some that think JUST LIKE ME AND SOME WHO DO NOT. I THOROUGHLY ENJOY IT. I want to make that clear 'cause if I did not enjoy it, I wouldn't be on it to the extent that I am. Of course that part of the Internet is NOT what I am here to speak on today. I mean, what would be the fun in that? (Don't answer that...the one day I DO GET ON HERE TO DO JUST THAT THOUGH, I DON'T WANT TO HEAR ANY COMPLAINTS.. )

Everyone, RIGHTFULLY has something that they believe in STRONGLY. While I think that it is a GREAT THING even if I don't necessarily agree with what they believe in, I am NOT A FIRM BELIEVER IN 'Stand for something or you will fall for anything.'. Why?

'Cause a lot of you stand for BULLSHIT that's why! Which in turn is JUST AS BAD IF NOT WORSE THAN STANDING FOR NOTHING AT ALL. @ you pushing bullshit agendas and spreading it like it is the gospel. That's why. Standing for 'bullshit' just for the sake of standing for 'something' is probably one of the biggest COP OUTS 'we' (my people) perpetuate on this Earth. I abhor it but it isn't my 'call' to choose what you stand for. Just know that if it is 'my respect' you want, that isn't the way to get it. *



Back on topic though as far as the people one might meet on the Internet. There are folks out here FIGHTING FOR GOOD THINGS EVERY DAY. They have some FANTASTIC CAUSES. Equal rights for blacks. For minorities. For WOMEN. Justice this. Equality that. Making sure folks aren't reduced to a fetish....(record scratch)...


Yeah...you read that right. There are folks out here who are ADAMANT about folks being able to distinguish having a preference and having something they like turn into a fetish who will hit you with it EVERY DAY B. Every day. Looking for the 'one chink in a tweet/Facebook status/blog post' that they can 'spread open' to call someone  'out' on the things that THEY LIKE. Not that they person BOUGHT THEIR 'FETISH' TO THEM PERSONALLY. Oh no! This is STRAIGHT DIGGING through the trash to find that one item that wasn't 'put in the recycle bin' type stuff. @ folks doing this. THAT IS WHAT I WANT TO TALK ABOUT TODAY LADIES AND GENTLEMAN. This particular subject is just one of THE MANY SUBJECTS that end up being 'discussed' in the manner I am about to present to you on the daily by some of the folks you may encounter on the Internet. 


So what you are saying Mr. Blogger is that if I have something that I 'believe in' I should just keep it to myself huh? I should NOT DISCUSS IT or chime in when 'what I believe' is being challenged, misconstrued, misrepresented, or I otherwise feel folks aren't 'getting it'? Is that the message you are going to send Mr. Blogger? 'Cause if so, I don't wanna.....

WHOA THERE KIMASOBE ...not what I said..

 
























Of course you can chime in. It is a free country. You can discuss, defend, reiterate and do so to YOUR HEART'S CONTENT. Just understand this though. Some of you are FAR TOO JUDGMENTAL AND OVERBEARING WITH THAT SHIT and in turn YOU ARE GOING TO GET HEAT returned at you.

Look, I get that whatever 'cause/movement/etc' that you are out here in these social media tweets is PERSONAL for a lot of you. Some of you have even admitted as such. That is human nature. Understandable. Some of you take it too far though. @ the personal attacks I have seen you make on others. I don't follow a lot of you because of it (and vice versa as I have told many of you who will probably get your hands on this about yourselves on MORE than one occasion.) Shit is annoying.

Take for example the 'light skin'/damm near white thing'/interracial dating horse ya'll love to beat to death on the TL...For some of you , SHIT WAS REAL IN THE FIELD. You weren't getting 'chose' 'cause Becky & Stephanie were the flavor. You missed out on the 8th Grade Dinner Dance 'cause Qwon took Lightskinned  Keisha with the grey eyes and curly hair after chasing you down the Summer before to make 'that alone time ya'll had' special. Prom sucked because the star athlete you used to TUTOR so that HE COULD PLAY BALL, didn't ask you to Prom and went with ......(You know her name...) I GET IT. We ALL GET IT. That nigga wasn't SHIT. He did you wrong in some capacity (According to you anyway...) . SO DID EVERY OTHER BOY (girl) WHO NEVER CHOSE YOU. It happened. Nobody is DENYING that you were hurt by that. Here's the thing though..




WE DIDN'T DO IT. They did. As a result.....Since we know we really didn't do shit to you, no one person in their RIGHT MIND IS GOING TO GIVE YOU THE POWER TO BASICALLY DICTATE THAT THEY....



 'Rooney Rule'**   THEIR DATE/FB LIFE TO APPEASE YOU.  Fuck I look like, justifying SHIT to you over some shit I DIDN'T DO TO YOU? You have some nerve out here. I look like a stone cold idiot doing that. Take that shit back to the mofo who hurt you or got @ 'him' (her) or some shit. Leave good folks alone outchea. I didn't do shit to you. The folks on your TL didn't do anything to you. It was the folks in the past who did it. Go SEE THEM ABOUT IT. Or get on a couch and get some help. Shit. Nobody is out here about to 'interview candidates' for a job they aren't gonna get anyway. I mean how do you even decide that shit? What would be the rules on that? Is there a minimum/maximum # of young ladies one can have in the 'interview process' before it doesn't become 'playerish'. Be careful what you are wishing for out here ladies... Oh wait, I suppose if we did that then Steve's 90 day rule might...nevermind... (That's a WHOLE OTHER POST...)

 Stop running up on folks with that shit. Shit is tired. ESPECIALLY...in light of the fact that the 'niggas that do that wouldn't never get any of this anyway.." - You. 


What you out here crying over spilled milk that YOU WOULDN'T TOUCH WITH YOUR ENEMIES LIPS FOR ANYWAY? Riddle me that shit... 

This is coming from a DARK SKIN BLACK MAN who DEFINITELY wasn't in style during the 'Ricky Fountaine' era...So it isn't like I don't 'know what ya'll are talking about'. I won't feign ignorance. IT EXISTS. Gotta get in the game though folks and get over the past. I got over it. QUICKLY MIGHT I ADD. It is high time you did too... Who cares that you 'can't stand dudes that think dating a 'such and such' is an upgrade? Fuck you really gonna do about it? Date ALL OF THEM IF THEY DECIDE TO DATE YOU? No. You aren't. You will just find some other reason on your Kameela's*** ass list to write them off for anyway. So what is the big deal and why are you shoving that shit in folks face....DAILY?

It is even more hilarisad when I see folks who 'fit the stereotypes' denouncing it AND...AND... WAIT FOR IT.... going at ANY AND EVERYBODY WHO THEY THINK 'FITS' THE BILL. Got a white (really any woman who isn't DARK AND BLACK) woman? Don't let this person find out 'cause all of the sudden, she is in your mentions grilling you about 'what you like about your woman' like she REALLY FUCKING INTERESTED in ANY ANSWER YOU GIVE. Why? She has already made up her mind that you have 'fetish' tendencies and is waiting for you to say those famous words..


" I like her because she is different.." 

You could type in 'She is different in that she likes the things I like..." and the ONLY WORD HOMEGIRL is going to see is 'different'. Then you will get 'told about yourself' as she RTs you up and down her TL for all of her 'supporters' to come in to cosign with the 'See..I hate folks who do this....Why can't you just..." This is the BULLSHIT right here..lol




Here's the kicker..The very 'self hate' tag that folks like that THROW AROUND LIKE A DIRTY DISHRAG? It has permeated them. They HATE THEMSELVES. The hate is so bad that for most of them, they can't reconcile the fact that if someone likes them for their 'look' that it is OKAY. Some sad shit going on out here. @ folks looking TOO HARD FOR THE FLAW to see the flawlessness in someone's attraction to them.


So who cares if ole boy got a white girl. Or a Spanish girl. Or an Indian girl. Of if she is fucking a white dude... (Even though there isn't really much of an OUTWARD issue with that anymore to me anyway..@ the folks I know..) Fucks it mean to you REALLY? YOU WEREN'T CHECKING FOR HIM if you knew him. Hell the chances are PRETTY HIGH you were probably engaging in some 'segregation' tactics in regards to him in YOUR OWN RIGHT! @ whatever issues you had with him or folks like him. You can't be mad he/she looked elsewhere. These divisive tactics are AWFUL FAMILIAR though..Once upon a time, we were the ones getting discriminated on over silly shit. Scrutinized with a fine tooth comb for nothing. Seems we learned a lot from our oppressors. It shines through every day I tell ya...















And what is this shit I am hearing 'women' NOT LIKING TO BE CALLED 'FEMALES' and 'Men are never 'males'..'


https://twitter.com/#!/ArriannaMarie/status/194285182696693760

 I don't follow this person. Actually I don't even follow the person that RT'd (Dream Hampton) it which started the shit storm on my TL last night..



The discussion itself isn't the issue for me. You want to have that, COOL. Have away at it. The lies being told so that folks could 'sound right' was what kinda threw me off. It was the 'tone' it took as it got RT'D up and down my TL. The finger pointing started. The 'you have no right to speak on it' shit started. Folks became REALLY STANDOFFISH about it in one breath but STAYED QUESTIONING WHY IT COULDN'T BE 'DISCUSSED'. Hmmm, I wonder why... @ the attacking tone of the conversation. It was an ambush. Good to see that one male (oops...I addressed him as a male..I must NOW BE STONED TO DEATH AS IT COULD BE SEEN AS DEROGATORY..FOH with that shit..) spoke up on the fact that we DO IN FACT get addressed as 'males' all the time in a NEGATIVE fashion. By OURSELVES NO LESS... Here are some more examples though in case you feel like his experience is akin to seeing a pot of Gold or something..


http://www.huffingtonpost.com/matthew-lynch-edd/trayvon-martin-black-boys_b_1372866.html






 She said NEVER.. The argument isn't who has it 'worse' so don't come pulling that card over here. She said NEVER. Never doesn't mean some of the time, it means NEVER. Tell her to choose her words better next time.... Don't hit me with the 'You know what she meant..' either 'cause this ARTICLE HERE DOES SHOW MALES aren't seen positively at all a vast majority of the time (and sometimes with good reason honestly.)  so even if it is 'WORSE' or the struggle HAS been longer, there is a REAL STRUGGLE GOING ON RIGHT NOW THAT IS AFFLICTING OUR NEIGHBORHOODS IN A REAL WAY as well. The 'view of the relationship of a Father' as it pertains to being in his child's Life according to the court of law. **** Come into the courtroom down in the count. @ the 'male'.




http://www.news.com.au/opinion/men-fight-the-stereotype/story-e6frfs99-1111112629093


In particular this passage...


The research shows almost 70 per cent of social commentary on the male gender is unfavourable – portraying men as violent, sexually abusive, unable to be trusted with children, "deadbeat dads" and commitment-phobic.
In the largest Australian study of its kind, Dr Jim Macnamara analysed more than 2000 media articles and programs and found men were mostly positioned as villains, aggressors, perverts or philanderers.
Yes, well, any women's magazine will tell you that.
Male-bashing is a vital part of female bonding; it brings us together, gives us a common point of reference as well as something to complain about.
And the much maligned male so thoughtfully gives us so much material to choose from.
Affectionate bitching is one thing – the male bashing is now taking a more serious turn where boys are growing up in a world where they are faced with a distinct lack of role models.
According to Dr Macnamara, even the positive images of men in the media are delivered as a backhanded compliment with there being only one version of the "good men"; the sensitive metrosexual who is in touch with his feminine side.
Not much to choose from really; the unemotional, aggressive commitment freak or the moisturised, dithering doormat.
The media's limiting rendering of men is alarming says the University of Western Sydney academic because social policy works hand in hand with social stereotyping.
"Legislation is developed by government and largely driven by what is being said in society – it is already beginning to affect social policy if you look at child access and child custody issues.
"There is overwhelming discourse that men cannot be trusted with children – there is a lot of concern about men being alone in the company of a child."
Despite the tide of opinion positioning men as the perpetrators of crime, Dr Macnamara says when it comes to violence against children – women are often responsible.
"What we are doing is creating a society that believes 90 to 95 per cent of violence is committed by men and it's not true," he says.
"Research shows violence against children is more often committed by women – I'm not trying to push the blame back to women. I'm saying that as a society we need to look at the image that we are creating for young boys."

Read more: http://www.news.com.au/opinion/men-fight-the-stereotype/story-e6frfs99-1111112629093#ixzz1st7MeCeX

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So ya'll were saying again? Oh... @ men aren't ever looked at in a 'negative light' when the term 'male' is used.. You sure? I know many of you WHO HAVE WENT AGAINST THAT STATEMENT WHEN DISCUSSING YOUR HOMEBOY'S CUSTODY BATTLES.


Ya'll kill me out here. Some celeb RTs some shit, in a TOTALLY DIFFERENT CONTEXT than the one you tried to frame it in on YOUR TL and NOBODY is supposed to say shit? FOH...


As the song goes..



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*My respect isn't valued at any more than any other person's respect by the way. I'm not as pompous as some of you to believe that somehow, my respect will garner you this 'Worldly pass' into this mythical 'underworld' that some many of you clamor to be a part of....-_- . That wasn't said with any 'airs'. @ my respect.  So if you aren't seeking it, I'm not 'hurt'. Just as you shouldn't be if you don't fool with me and I am not seeking your 'respect'. I made the statement because so often, that is what I hear out of folks mouth...'I just want respect..folks don't have to like me but they will respect me.." That's not respect then. Respect is begat out of admiration. Not out of fear or dislike. I could give you the just due you deserve AND STILL NOT RESPECT YOU. Trust me. I've done it. The minute I could 'bury' someone who felt like that, I HAVE. You don't do things like that to folks you 'respect'...ya dig? Some of you need to stop niggarizing words and learn their TRUE MEANINGS..



**The Rooney Rule, established in 2003,^[1] requires National Football League teams to interview minority candidates for head coaching and senior football operation opportunities. It is often cited as an example of affirmative action. The Rule was established to ensure that minority coaches, especially African Americans, were considered for high-level coaching positions. Until 1979, Fritz Pollard was the only minority head coach in NFL history (which was during the league's early years in the 1920s) and by the time the Rule was implemented, only Tom Flores, Art Shell, Dennis Green, Ray Rhodes, Tony Dungy, and Herman Edwards had ever held head coaching jobs (Only Dungy and Edwards were actively head coaching at the time of the Rule's implementation, though Shell and Green would later return to the sidelines as head coaches). Dungy in particular had struggled for years before getting a head coaching job; he was often promoted as a head coaching candidate by Chuck Noll when Dungy was an assistant under Noll in the 1980s with the Steelers, but he would not become a head coach until 1996 when he took over the Tampa Bay Buccaneers.




***Never heard of Kameelah? Real World Boston.. Here's a GREAT POST ON IT..


 http://toughtyping.blogspot.com/2009/03/kameelah-list-do-you-have-one.html



****Not that every DAD IS OUT HERE BEING UPSTANDING. A lot do TRY THOUGH and they don't fight through this obstacle. Same way, some Mothers intend to let their kid's Father in their child's life and....well.....LIFE gets in the way @ feelings, the need to provide, PARENTAL PRESSURE, etc, etc...